How to let it go

How can I let go?

Perhaps it is one of the hardest lessons to learn and put into practice in life, but also one of the most important in order to have a happy and harmonious life. Whether it is our past, a love or a situation, letting go is one of the actions necessary to bring peace in our hearts. But how does it work? It is definitely an attitude that takes time and courage, but it is possible. Let’s see 6 steps to let go of all that no longer serves us.

 1.Try to understand the reasons behind your attachment

Why is it so hard to let go a person or a situation that makes us suffer? Very often it is because we are afraid of being emotionally alone: the emotions we feel might not make us feel comfortable, but they keep us company. If we let go of what no longer serves us, we would end up facing an emotional void, exactly what we fear. But it is just from this break into our heart that we will allow a new light to filter into our lives!

2. Accept the situation for what it is

Once you understand the reasons for your emotional attachment, you need to accept the situation for what it is. Everything is perfect as it is, and everything happens according to a perfect space-time sequence. The Universe wisely guides us in every moment of our lives. Everything happens for a reason. Maybe this is not visible to our human eyes, in this precise moment, but it is for the Universe and probably will be for us in the future. Trust life and its wisdom. Positive affirmations are a very powerful and effective tool for creating new awareness within us.

3. See the opportunity, not the loss 

When we experience an unpleasant situation, we might ask ourselves “Why is this happening to me? What did I do wrong?”. By doing this, we assume a passive role of victim and this certainly does not help us feeling better. How would things change if you asked yourself “What is happening for me in this moment?”. Life occasionally needs to push us to guide us. Life is like a plant that needs a bigger pot when it grows. If we don’t remove the plant from the pot that has become too small, it will not receive nourishment to grow and it will die. If we change the pot, it will grow strong and robust. Sometimes even life (or God) changes the pot of our life, it removes old relationships, old jobs or situations without any doubt, because he knows that we need a new land, a bigger pot. Why are we afraid of not getting a new pot?

4. Live the present moment

When we feel nostalgic and melancholic for the past or anxious for the future, we miss the only certain and the most precious moment of our lives, the present. Everything is perfect as it is and all that is meant to be, will be; the present moment is the best time to express our gratitude for what we have. Getting worried is always a great waste of energy, as it is bringing up a past that it is not there anymore. Breathwork is a great way to bring us back into the present moment, it also helps us to let go of emotional blocks that we still have and puts us in touch with our life force.

5. Give voice to your emotions 

Regaining the emotional balance requires time and patience. There could be days in which you are feeling down and you start thinking about the past. Any feeling or emotion you feel is acceptable. There is no need to push sadness away, just let it be. Label your emotions and write a diary of how you feel. Find ways to express your emotions, let your creativity flow without any judgment.

6. Give yourself permission to go ahead

We all deserve the best in our life. To get it, you need to believe that you deserve it. Give yourself permission to move on, to turn page and write a new wonderful chapter of your life. Every moment is new and fresh and carries an opportunity. It’s never too late to become who you have always wanted to be, to try new things and love again!


true soulmates

  1. Soulmates make you feel good, yes they do!  When you meet them you suddenly feel enhanced and at oneness with that person but here are other signs to look out for.
  2. The gift of irrelevancy
    Suddenly everything outside of the relationship becomes less important to the couple and even severe problems and obstacles become irrelevant to their happiness. You are full of bliss and feeling have feelings of contentment.
  3. It's scary!
    The word "love" is very over-used in modern society. Typically these days it just implies fondness or tolerance. True love however is scary. The more you love someone the more they can hurt you. It's normal to feel a level of fear when you truly love someone, yet it often shocks people when they feel it for the first time. Especially if they thought they had been in love before.
  4. Am I good enough?
    It's quite normal for each partner to feel they aren't quite worthy of their partner. This isn't insecurity but it's a similar concept. There is also a feeling that they make you feel worthy. A healthy relationship should never leave you feeling insecure or worried. If someone makes you feel like you want to become a better person, then this person could be a keeper!
  5. Opposite viewpoints.
    A fascinating element of the relationship, opinions are often shared yet the logic used to arrive at them is often literally opposite.
  6. Acting out of character
    usually a soulmate brings out a different side of you than previous partners have. Recurring themes include being more nurturing and selfless than in prior relationships. Soulmates seem to always bring out the best in each other . If its anything than the opposite of this , then its probable they are not soulmate material.
  7. A sense of wasted time with previous partners
    You suddenly feel that all previous partners become 'less important'. Its like you have woken up to something brand new, something more empowering and you wonder what you were doing with some past partners ?
  8. Trust
    Destructive behaviour usually comes about when there is a lack of trust. However you know when your with the right person when you trust them with every bone in your body. It's  just there! You also get the feeling that you've known this person forever.
  9. Very high compatibility scores?
    You don't have to be compatible in every sense, sometimes you  just fit!!! You know that feeling when you  feel comfortable with someone and you know deep down that you are right for each other. That is compatibility!